Here are your options to participate in the Relationship Dialogues

21-week Conversational Program

You will receive an email each week containing a link to watch a video and download a page of “conversation starters”. By purchasing this program you are committing to spend at least one hour per week working on your relationship with your partner.  Full program details are here.

Weekly In-Person Classes at Optimize Center

Weekly Skype classes from anywhere!

Private counseling sessions with Dr. Shaler, at the Optimize Center or on Skype.

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Two full-day seminars and six weekly calls lead by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.

OR, if you live too far from Escondido, CA, to drive over, lucky thirteen Skype calls to accelerate your business growth.

AND, you will not get lost in the crowd as each group is limited to twelve women.

For complete details about this group coaching program for women, visit www.CollaboratingWomen.com

Valuable content, insights and interaction, presented through a proven system to
clarify, grow and accelerate your business success
…with less stress, more fun, and a heightened sense of purpose.

NEXT CLASS KICKS OFF 2012 TO MAKE IT YOUR BEST YEAR EVER!

THE DETAILS:

IN PERSON SEMINARS AND SKYPE COACHING CALLS: January 8 – February 19, 2012.

Opening seminar at the Optimize Center in Escondido, CA – January 8. 10 AM – 4:30 PM

Ninety minute coaching calls on Wednesday mornings from 10 – 11:30 AM

January 11, 18, 25

February 1, 8, 15

Closing seminar at the Optimize Center - February 19, 10 AM – 4:30 PM.

THE DETAILS: SKYPE ONLY PROGRAM

Thirteen 75 minute Skype calls, two each week, to systematically clarify, grow & accelerate your business.

Mondays – January 9, 16, 23, 30, February 6, 16: 9-10:15 AM

Thursdays – January 5, 12, 19, 26, February 2, 9, 20: 9-10:15 AM

REGISTER HERE: THERE ARE ONLY TWELVE SPACES, SO SAVE YOURS!

Conflict and confrontation are sparks to creativity, growth, clarity and depth…if they are handled wisely and well. Otherwise, they lead to conflagration, big fires that sometimes never seem to go out.

Besides in families, relationships and at work, conflict can flare up out “on the street.”

• Maybe you had an accident
• Your property line is in dispute
• You and your landlord don’t see eye to eye
• You disagree with a citation or collection notice
• There’s a difference of opinion over the validity of a claim

… there are myriad reasons why people “get into it”. Let us help you disengage peacefully.

When you have been feeding a small fire, or having a small fire fed for you, it is wise to find a way to use it as a catalyst to move the relationship forward. If not, it will be out of control and growing, or at a minimum, keeping your afraid that it will.

People are different.

Most folks enjoy rubbing a few sticks together occasionally to create few sparks, but they have little interest in creating forest fires.

Some folks seems to enjoy starting and nurturing fires. They love to talk about them to anyone who will listen, to feed them. Fire fodder!

And, then, some enjoy starting, building and maintaining a good, blazing , oftenintended-to- roast kind of fires in many places.

Mediation turns your fire into fuel that gives lift-off to your relationship.

Whether  it propels it to new heights or turns the heat source off, you will have pro-actively created a fire break that will add to the safety and reduce the fear and anxiety of living or working together.

Don’t wait for a crisis.  Too many people wait until fires cannot be contained. The fires jump the fences and wreak havoc in the neighborhood–at home, in the community, or at work.  Regular relationship mediation keeps your primary relationships in green and growing mode. Small fires are given the attention they require before they heat you up too much, or threaten to torch your relationships.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler advocates that all couples and all workplace teams should commit to re-mediation annually, at a minimum. She says:

“When you care about your relationships with yourself, with those you live with and those you work with or employ, you must recognize growth and change happens. Relationships are not in the ‘set and forget’ category. They are living, breathing, dynamic entities whose participants are growing and changing. Healthy relationships respect and accommodate change. That’s why I recommend that couples, families, and workplace groups and teams have, at least, annual re-mediations. It saves money, anxiety, productivity, creativity, passion and collaboration. All worth saving!”

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler works with individuals, couples, families, organizations and teams to help conflict become communication. That leads to new understandings and new agreements. Whether you’re at the crisis point, approaching the crisis point, or wanting to avoid the crisis point, mediation is the next best step.

Mediate now. Re-Mediate regularly.

Contact Dr. Shaler now to discuss your desired outcomes.

Call The Optimize Center -  760.747.8686 or visit us at 350 W. 9th Avenue, Escondido CA

That’s why folks go home with their shoulders up near their earlobes!

Both employers and employees need to look forward to and finish each day with a sense of contribution, creativity and collaboration. That’s what actually creates productivity. But, when tension is high and tempers are volatile…even when it all seems to be under the radar…no one is having a good day.

“…up to 42% of an employee’s time is spent engaging in or resolving conflict.”  Dana Mediation Institute

Can you possibly afford that?

• If you are the employee, can you spend your time like that and still make a significant contribution to the mission of your workplace?

• If you are the employer, can you afford to have up to 42% of your payroll just walking out the door with nothing to show for it?

No! That’s why mediation and re-mediation are significant to your success.

When you mediate an existing difficulty and/or commit to bi-annual re-mediations for your team, you are saying that you want people to be able to give all their attention to the mission, not the mess! That’s a wise business decision!

Human Resource Managers know the value of mediation. Valuable employees to the company can usually be retained by mediating interpersonal relationships and mediating conflict situations. This saves the company both time and money, to say nothing of the stress, anxiety and tension it reduces.

Contact Dr. Rhoberta Shaler to discuss your specific needs and we’ll make a plan to work with your team at our office, at your business or over the telephone.

Call The Optimize Center -  760.747.8686 or visit us at 350 W. 9th Avenue, Escondido CA