Private Relationship Sessions


Getting the Relationship Help you need to Resolve Relationship Problems within yourself, and with your partner…book-appt2

Sometimes we think of getting relationship help as a last resort, the place we go that shows the problem is bigger than our skill set and that somehow we have failed.

I have a different view. 

I think wise people — ones who know what they want and are focused on creating the best life, relationships and business success possible — naturally get help the moment they know they need it.

Our classes and private sessions are that kind of help.

I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and I’ve been working with folks like you for more than twenty-five years.

Helping individuals, couples and families get the insights, skills and strategies they need to create the life and relationships they most want is what lights my fire. That’s why I only work with people who are ready to see through, think through and work through the obstacles and fears, scripts and blind spots that will allow them to flourish, to experience the life, love and livelihood they long for.

Everyone has obstacles, fears, scripts and blind spots! It’s whether or not you work through them that makes all the difference to the quality of your life.

…and, Geography is no obstacle to us working together. 

  • If you live in the San Diego area, you are welcome to come to my office.
  • If you live anywhere else, the magic of Skype with video conferencing puts us together instantly. 

Individual or private sessions or mediation are easily engaged in with Skype’s help.  All you need is a computer, camera & headset and you’re ready to step into my office from anywhere in the world. (P.S. Most laptops have built in cameras, all you need is a headset or microphone.)


Call the Optimize Center in Escondido, CA (San Diego County) to talk with Dr. Shaler directly
and choose the best starting place to get the relationship help and results you want. 




More about Dr. Shaler’s unique approach to helping you get the results you want…


Counseling is a great tool for resolving relationship problems.Dr. Shaler says, “I am a Life Mechanic.”

Years ago, I was in the habit of going to a particular watering hole each Friday after work to meet with colleagues and friends. Although I’m allergic to alcohol, it was a wonderful community of professionals who enjoyed the Friday late afternoon rituals of gathering, talking and preparing for the weekend.

New people would drift through and stop to chat. Of course, one of the first questions a man would ask me is

“What do you do?” (It was after the ‘What is your sign?” era…lol)

I quickly learned that mentioning my work at that time as a therapist caused most to put their hands over their faces and say,

“Don’t read me. Don’t figure me out!” in mock horror.

So, I learned to have conversations like this, which might help you understand my stance on counseling and therapy:

“What do you do when your car breaks down?”

I take it to the shop.”

“Why do you take it to the shop?”

Relationship problems can benefit from a "life mechanic"“Because I don’t know how to fix it myself. The guys there, that’s all they do, so they are the experts and I don’t have to be.”

“So, you know the value of a mechanic.”


“Great, then. The answer to “What do I do?” is that I am a life mechanic!”

This seemed quite acceptable as well as logical. I think it is true for everyone. And, we all know that it is better to take our cars to the shop at the first sign of a clunk or rattle than to wait until we’re completely unable to move in a dangerous part of town late at night!

Personal Counseling services are available in my office, in your office or on the telephone. Call the Optimize Center for further information and to make an appointment.

I’ll be waiting for you with all the tools needed to keep you in great shape, running like a top.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Optimize Center
350 W. 9th Avenue
Escondido, CA 92025




Dr. Shaler is clear and wants you to be, too.

“Only come to work with me if you really want your life, relationships and business to work AND are willing to do what it takes to make that so. Let’s not waste time or money! Change and grow….or go!”


Everyone is welcome to work with Dr. Shaler. Her particular specialty is working with influencers, people who lead, inspire, educate and help others embrace life fully and achieve success on their own terms.

As a leader, speaker, therapist, minister or healer, you know you are responsible for living in alignment with your values, vision, purpose and beliefs, demonstrating who you are and what you teach in every moment.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps those in professions she herself practices come to the clarity, insight and wisdom necessary for bringing their gifts to the life of the world successfully.